Do you have middle schoolers? Are you wondering how to manage these years?
As of today, I have five teens and one pre-teen (plus five young adults). I love teens, they’re interesting, fun to be with, and their worlds are exploding with opportunity. They also need a lot of guidance.
Middle school is a time when kids experience startlingly rapid physical and mental growth. Just yesterday one of my sons called me from the pool and his voice was so deep I couldn’t believe it was him.
Their peers are going through the same process, but my kids, and many of yours, have the added complexity of being adoptees. As kids mature they ask different questions about their stories and ponder the complexities of being separated from their first families. They may wonder, “How did I end up in this family?”
Adoption is always part of their world. Recently my son found an Ethiopian coin and said, “I wonder if this is the exact amount of money my Ethiopian mom needs right now.”
Like mine, some of your teens have an extra layer of not only being adopted but growing up as young black teens in white families. Digging deeper into racial issues and learning from people of color must be added to our parenting plates.
I suggest we focus on three simple things with our middle schoolers:
God acts when we pray and often does more in seconds than we could do in hours or weeks or sometimes years. John Piper
Take every opportunity to connect, Fill their lives with positive activities, and Pray.
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About the Author, Lisa Qualls:
Russ and Lisa are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. She is the creator of One Thankful Mom. In 2011, she became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and has lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. She is the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. Lisa is also a certified Enneagram coach. She loves speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents and co-hosting her podcast, The Adoption Connection. Using her TBRI training, Enneagram knowledge, and decades of parenting experience, she coaches and encourages adoptive moms.
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