Posts by Karly Pancake


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April 12, 2021 7 Ways to Love Biological Families When we choose to foster or adopt, we are choosing to honor, respect, and love our children's biological families. In doing so, we show the love of Christ to biological families in simple, tangible ways. This not only shows them love, it also includes them in the raising of their children, offering them the opportunity to have a relationship with their children. 0
March 16, 2021 Trauma & Felt Safety Even after years of being in our homes, children may still not feel safe, even though we know that they are safe. We as parents know that we will protect our children at all costs, making sure they have food, shelter, and safety. However, children who have experienced trauma come from a place where their needs were not met. They still may not feel safe. 0
March 8, 2021 Redemption in Secondary Trauma This blog was written by Karly Pancake and originally appeared on her blog, Foster Truth. In the last couple of weeks, my prayer journal has been filled with equal amounts of grief and gratitude. One night, I go to bed… 0
February 26, 2021 5 Things to Do When You Feel Isolated You go to all the classes. You learn about trauma and the impact it has on the brain. You try to channel your inner Karyn Purvis. But still, the isolation creeps in. At first, you are just keeping your child’s world small. You are working on connecting as a family. But slowly you find yourself pulling away from friends, family, and activities that bring you joy. 0
February 8, 2021 Loneliness in Foster Care & Adoption Fortunately, I didn't have any friends telling me how horrible I am and what poor choices I made (I have really amazing friends and family), but I did feel incredibly lonely and isolated in the middle of a really hard season. In The Bible Recap podcast about this portion of Scripture, Tara Leigh-Cobble said, "It's hard to feel alone in your pain. But it's even harder to feel unknown in your pain." So while I didn't experience the mockery that Job experienced from his friends, I did experience the aloneness and unknownness of suddenly raising a teenager and pre-teen who have experienced trauma in my late twenties as a first-time parent. 0
January 25, 2021 Back to Basics: Compromises, Choices, and Re-dos As parents, it is our natural instinct to parent the way that we were parented. For many of us, our parents did an excellent job raising us to be healthy, happy adults, but parenting children who have come from trauma means parenting children with unique needs. In order to do this well, we need a unique set of parenting tools to help us to connect with, guide, and love our children to the best of our ability in order to create the healing home that they need. 0
January 18, 2021 Back to Basics: Parenting Resources As foster, adoptive, and kinship parents, we know that children who have experienced trauma have unique needs, and therefore we need unique training, education, and information regarding our children’s needs and how to best parent them. With the wealth of… 0
January 11, 2021 Back to Basics: What is Tapestry? Tapestry began 15 years ago as a ministry of Irving Bible Church in Irving, Texas. The first of its kind, seeking to support foster and adoptive families in the local church and community. What started as a small support group for families on the same parenting journey, became a place of teaching a new set of parenting skills, equipping churches to walk alongside those in their own community, and a place where organizations work together to bring healing to families. 0
January 1, 2021 Looking Forward to 2021 We can all agree that 2020 has been a doozy. From experiencing a global pandemic to suddenly having to work from home and homeschool our children, it has certainly not met our expectations for what we thought the year would… 0
December 14, 2020 A Very Connected Christmas In the world of social media and Pinterest, it can be really easy to become overwhelmed with the amount of ideas for creating family memories, traditions, and building connection throughout the holidays. Add in trauma and parenting challenging behaviors, and… 0

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