Family Nurture Groups

By: - April 9, 2016

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We strive to connect with our kids as we teach them new skills.  Before we can take away a survival skill, we need to replace it with a new one. One of the things we often suggest to families is for them to do family nurture group in their home. Here’s how you can get started:

Family Rules: Stick Together, No Hurts, Have Fun

Things to help you stay regulated: chewing gum, sucking on a sucker, playing with a fidget, holding a weighted object, magic mustache, chair/floor push-ups

Format for Nurture Groups

1. Review Rules

2. Family Check-in – Ask a question and let everyone take turns answering. (pick one or make one up)

– Best part of the day/worst part of the day (do both)
– If I could be any animal I would be?
– Silliest thing I have ever done…
– When I grow up I want to be (parents answer from when you were a kid or dream job)

3. Nurture – take turns giving and receiving nurture. Each person asks another person if he/she can do one of the following for them:

– Put a band-aid on a hurt (emotional hurt could be symbolized by band-aid on the heart)
– Back/foot massage
– Lotion on hands
– Weather report

4. Fun With Teaching

– wrong way/right way- either using puppets or acting out show the “wrong way” and the “right way” to do something. For example, what is the wrong way to respond when mom/dad asks you to clean your room? What is the right way? What is the wrong way/right way to act when told you can’t do something you want to do? Pick some things that you see your family doing/saying often and use this part to practice doing them right/wrong in a silly exaggerated way!
– Feelings- take turns talking about feelings by tossing or rolling a ball and sharing something that makes you sad, disappointed, frustrated..etc to teach naming feelings

5. Feeding – Take turns feeding each other (candy, pretzels, anything small and yummy)

6. Closure – Close by reviewing the rules and then praying and reading a scripture together

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  • Just finished watching the ETC Simulcast today and saw this blog on Twitter. How long do you think this “nurture group” would take? Do you do one activity from this list at a time or each item each time?

    April 9, 2016 at 8:54 pm

    • Depending on the size of your family, a nurture group will typically last 15-30 min. You will want to pick one activity from numbers 2,3, and 4 on the list. You can do the same ones each time, or change it up depending on the skill you are wanting to work on.

      Kayla North
      May 16, 2016 at 10:11 pm