As adoptive and foster parents we all understand that our kids’ stories did not start with us. They each have a history that we are not included in. Their stories range from that of a young mom who placed her child for adoption to being removed because of severe abuse and neglect. And the more difficult their stories are the more likely we are to have an adversarial view of their birth families.
Jesus says that God blesses those who are merciful. Mercy is defined as showing compassion toward someone who has caused offense. What if we, instead of taking an adversarial posture toward the people in our kids’ stories, decided to show them mercy? We can show them mercy in our tone and words. We can show them mercy by protecting their stories instead of sharing them with everyone we know. We can show them mercy by treating them with kindness. We can show them mercy by praying for their healing.
What a beautiful thing to model for our children. As parents, we have taken on our kid’s pain, and that is a good and tangible manifestation of our love for them. We have also taken on the responsibility to raise them well. I believe that if we model mercy and kindness for them that they themselves will become merciful and kind people.
Lord, I often find myself being unkind in the name of protecting my kids. Please show me how to be kind and merciful. Please let me be an example of your grace. So that I can model that for my kids too. In Jesus name, Amen
“Show mercy and kindness to one another.” – Zechariah 7:9 (NLT)
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