Sometimes people look at our families, built through adoption, foster care, and kinship placements, and wonder why we would choose this path for our family. Our guest blogger, Chantel, shares with us the new path her family is on and how God has called her family to step out of their comfort zone into a whole new world:
I am a mom of 3 through birth and adoption. Recently, we had 2 new kids join our family. We are now conservators of our niece and nephew. They’ve been here a few days, and the difference in the house can be felt when you walk in the front door. We are now a family of 7 and people are asking us if we’re crazy. People are acting like this is some huge monumental step of sheer craziness.
Before I say more, don’t get me wrong, it does indeed feel a little crazy. It’s hectic and stressful, and a bit cramped. I mean, you walk in somewhere with 5 kids, and people just give you the pity looks… Not to mention, these kids are used to different rules and the adjustment is gonna be BIG. We are sharing rooms and moving people around. We are trying to figure out where we’re going to put our college daughter when she comes home for Christmas and summer breaks. But somehow, it doesn’t feel Capitan Crazy Pants Crazy, like not stand back and say “whats wrong with those people?” crazy.
I know it’s not going to be easy. I know it’s going to in fact get really, really, really hard. I know that anger, frustration, attitude, and fear are all going to show their ugly head and rock our world. I know that we are at some point going to sit down and say, “I’m not sure if we can do this”. I know, because we did that when we adopted. I know I’m going to cry, panic, and all-in-all just freak out at some point. I know all of those things.
But we also feel like this is just what love looks like. It looks like the picture of what Christ gives us, which makes no worldly sense. It is sacrificial, it is understanding. It is full of grace, it can’t be tamed, and doesn’t give up. And even though we have all the fears. Even though we are totally aware that this looks crazy, and maybe even feels a bit crazy. And maybe we are called to be exactly that… CRAZY… crazy givers of love. Even when it knocks us down. Even when it totally inconveniences us. Even when it takes its toll, and has us overwhelmed.
We are called to step way, way, way, out of our comfort zones in the name of Christlike love. And if we don’t feel like we are in the middle of the ocean, totally relying on Christ, loving in a way that doesn’t make rational sense to anyone else, then I don’t think we’re walking faith correctly. And so, let the crazy begin…
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.