All of us have stories to tell and those stories are based on our personal experiences. Those personal experiences then become the memories (good and bad) that we have and share with others. While our life experiences create memories for us they inform our belief systems as well.
It’s not that difficult to see the connection. If children (including us once upon a time) are nurtured and held close, and if they are raised in a structured environment, they will believe that they are worthy of love. Conversely, if children are not nurtured or are subject to arbitrary rules and enforcement of the rules, they will become adults who don’t trust others or believe they are worthy of healthy relationships. Good memories create positive belief systems, bad memories create negative belief systems
We tend to forget the good memories and remember the bad ones when we are struggling with our kids. That’s human nature, but we need to remember that we will then parent from the corresponding belief system. We parent believing that we are not good enough. We parent believing that we can’t be agents of healing. We parent like we are alone.
We need to remember the good. We need to remember God’s faithfulness. David had a great many bad things happen to him in his life including living on the run because King Saul wanted to kill him. He would also live on the run because his son wanted to kill him. In the midst of it all, he said that he would sing to the Lord because the Lord had been good to him. We need to remember to do the same. God has been good to us and we need to praise him.
Dear Lord, In good times and bad let me remember your faithfulness. Let me sing your praises because you have been good to me.
In Jesus name, Amen
“I will sing to the Lord because he is good to me.” – Psalm 15:6 (NLT)
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