Let’s be honest – guys need support and encouragement during the adoption (and foster care) journey. Only problem is, most guys are not willing or eager to seek it out and many are unwilling to take advantage of such opportunities when offered in the traditional “support group” setting. Maybe it’s because of the connotations of being a part of a “support group” or maybe it has to do with the suggestion that “support” is even needed. But if you change the focus from “support” to “connecting” with other guys who have adopted (or are fostering) or are considering adoption and throw in an additional reason to get together having to do with food, guys are likely to see the benefit of getting together and respond. This is why Tapestry created Guys Night (formerly called Guys Burger Night).
Its stated purpose is to “find the best burger in town and talk about adoption or whatever else is on our minds.” Our monthly get-togethers at burger establishments all over the Dallas area started with just four guys, but quickly grew to around 12+ guys at each gathering. Attendance varies from month to month, but over 40 different guys have attended a Tapestry guys night since 2007.
Sometimes the conversation is about adoption, and other times it revolves around work, sports, parenting or just life in general. Sometimes the conversation is serious, while at other times it is light-hearted. However, the burgers and fries seldom disappoint and these burger nights have allowed guys in our community of families to connect with one another, learn from one another and find the support and encouragement they need to help them along their adoption journey.
One or more guys that have adoption/foster care experience and have a desire to see guys connect. It is important that the guy leading this group is willing and able to walk alongside those pursuing various types of adoption (or foster care) journeys, not just the same path that the lead guy has experienced.
Nothing (each guy pays for his own meal)
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