Tapestry Reading List

By: - April 24, 2011

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Books for Adults


A Love Like No Other: Stories from Adoptive Parents, edited by Pamela Kruger and Jill Smolowe (Comment:  A diverse collection of stories that cover many different facets and perspectives of adoption)

A Treasury of Adoption Miracles, Karen Kingsbury

Adoption is a Family Affair! – What Friends and Family Must Know, Patricia Irwin Johnston (Comment: An excellent and unique adoption resource for educating and preparing and family and friends)

Before You Were Mine: Discovering Your Adopted Child’s Lifestory, Susan TeBos and Carissa Woodwyk

Carried Safely Home, Kristin Swick Wong

“Parenting Is Your Highest Calling” And 8 Other Myths That Trap Us in Worry and Guilt, Leslie Leyland Fields (Comment: Not an adoption/foster care book, but a must read for all parents to better understand what Scripture does (and does not) teach about parenting)

Raising Adopted Children, Lois Ruskai Melina (Comment: Practical advice on a wide range of adoption topics)

Real Parents, Real Children: Parenting the Adopted Child, Holly Van Gulden and Lisa M. Bartels-Rabb (Comment: Detailed information regarding the various developmental stages of adopted children)

Secret Thoughts of An Adoptive Mother, Jana Wolff (Comment: A very honest account by one adoptive mother, but may be off-putting to some readers)

The Essential Adoption Handbook, Colleen Alexander-Roberts

The Power of a Positive Mom, Karol Ladd (Comment:  While not an “adoption book,” this book contains valuable insights for all moms and moms-to-be.)

The Waiting Child, Cindy Champnella

The Whole Life Adoption Book, Jayne Schooler

There is No Me Without You, Melissa Fay Greene

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, Sherrie Eldridge

Attachment & Related Topics

Anatomy of the Soul, Curt Thompson

Attaching in Adoption, Deborah D. Gray

Nurturing Adoptions, Deborah Gray (Comment: An excellent book for parents adopting children with a history of trauma or abuse)

Parenting from the Inside Out, Daniel J. Siegel and Mary Hartzell (Comment: While this is not a Christian book, it offers important understanding and insights into what parents bring to the relationship with their children)

The Connected Child, Karyn B. Purvis, David R. Cross and Wendy Lyons Sunshine (Comment:  Written by a research team (Purvis and Cross, who lead the Institute of Child Development at TCU), this book is a must read for every adoptive and foster parent)

Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft, Mary Hopkins-Best (Comment: One of the better books available dealing specifically with toddler adoption)

Wounded Children, Healing Homes: How Traumatized Children Impact Adoptive and Foster Families, Jayne Schooler, Betsy Keefer Smalley and Timothy J. Callahan (Comment: An excellent book for both parents and professionals; contains one of the best chapters (Chapter 2) on the importance of parental expectations)

Race & Culture

Cross-Cultural Adoption: How to Answer Questions from Family, Friends and Community, Amy Coughlin & Caryn Abramowitz

I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla, Marguerite Wright (Comment: An excellent book about race and how (and when) kids understand various concepts about race.  A must-read for all transracial families.)

In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories, Rita J. Simon & Rhonda M. Roorda 

Inside Transracial Adoption, Gail Steinberg & Beth Hall (Comment: Helpful overview of the issues facing families who have adopted transracially)

Open Adoption

Dear Birthmother, Kathleen Silber & Phylis Speedlin

Life Givers, James Gritter (Comment: An excellent book that looks at adoption from the birth parent’s experience)

The Open Adoption Experience, Lois Ruskai Melina & Sharon Kaplan Roszia

Talking with Children About Adoption/Foster Care

Talking with Young Children About Adoption, Mary Watkins and Susan Fisher

Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child, Betsy Keefer and Jayne E. Schooler (Comment: An excellent resource to help parents talk with their children about adoption and their history, in particular the difficult and painful aspects of their history)


Created To Connect: A Christian’s Guide to The Connected Child, Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael & Amy Monroe (Comment: A study guide written as a companion resource for The Connected Child; available for free download at www.empoweredtoconnect.org.)

Fields of the Fatherless, C. Thomas Davis (Comment: An insightful and challenging book that reminds us of God’s heart for the least among us.)

Free of Charge, Miroslav Volf (Comment: Not an “adoption book,” although an excellent book about grace and giving.  Volf is an adoptive father and writes poignantly about his adoption experience in the opening chapter. An excellent read.)

Secure in God’s Embrace, Ken Fong (Comment: A wonderful little book that looks at God’s love through the lens of the biblical theme of adoption)

The Spirit of Adoption, Jeanne Stevenson-Moessner (Comment: Written by an academic theologian, this book is filled with inspiring personal stories and unique insights into the theological implications and parallels of adoption; somewhat academic in its overall approach.) 

Sensory Processing

The Out-of-Sync Child, Carol S. Kranowitz (Comment: Excellent resource to help parents identify and deal with sensory processing issues.)

The Out-of-Sync Child Has Fun, Carol S. Kranowitz (Comment: Good book full of practical ideas to help children with sensory processing issues/disorder.)

I Love You Rituals, Becky Bailey

Books for Children

A Blessing from Above, Patti Henderson 

A is for Adopted, Eileen Tucker Cosby

A Mother for Choco, Keiko Kasza

Adoption is for Always, Linda Walvoord Girard

Adoption Stories for Young Children, Randall B. Hicks

All Kinds of Children, Norma Simon

Come Along Daisy, Jane Simmons

Daisy and the Egg, Jane Simmons 

Family Day: Celebrating Ethan’s Adoption Anniversary, Christine Mitchell

Families are Forever, Craig Shemin

Families Change (A book for children experiencing termination of parental rights) – Julie


God Found Us You, Lisa Tawn Bergren 

I Don’t Have Your Eyes, Carrie A. Kitze

I Wished for You, Marianne Richmond

It’s OK to Be Different, Todd Parr

Little Miss Spider, David Kirk

Love You Forever, Robert Munsch

Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care, Jennifer Wilgocki

Murphy’s Three Homes (A Story for Children in Foster Care), Jan Levinson Gilman

My Adopted Child, There’s No One Like You, Kevin Leman

My Special Family: A Children’s Book About Open Adoption, Kathleen Silber and Debra

Marks Parelskin

Over the Moon, Karen Katz

Rosie’s Family, Lori Rosove

Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born, Jamie Lee Curtis

The Day We Met You, Phoebe Koehler

The Mulberry Bird (Revised Edition), Anne Brodzinsky

The Skin You Live In, Michael Tyler

The Star (A Story to Help Young Children Understand Foster Care), Cynthia Miller


The Whole Me, Ellen K. Baron

The Wonderful Ways Babies Are Made, Larry Christenson

Twice Upon A Time, Eleanora Patterson

Shaoey and Dot: Bug Meets Bundle, Mary Beth and Stephen Curtis Chapman

We Wanted You, Liz Rosenberg and Peter Catalanotto

Welcome Home, Forever Child: A Celebration of Children Adopted as Toddlers,

Preschoolers, and Beyond, Christine Mitchell

We’re Different, We’re the Same, Bobbi Jane Kates

When You Were Born in Korea, Brian Boyd

W.I.S.E. Up Powerbook (For Children Who Were Adopted), The Center for Adoption Support and Education (www.adoptionsupport.org) (Comment: An excellent resource to help empower your kids to know and be able to answer (or not answer) questions about their family and their adoption.  Highly recommended for all adoptive families with school-age children.)

W.I.S.E. Up Powerbook (For Children in Foster Care), The Center for Adoption Support and Education (www.adoptionsupport.org) (Comment: Similar to the original W.I.S.E Up Powerbook for children who were adopted, this resource is a great way to help talk with and empower children in foster care to better understand, accept and handle their story.)


Internet Sites

  • www.empoweredtoconnect.org – an excellent site filled with free video, audio and written resources by Dr. Karyn Purvis and others
  • www.child.tcu.edu – TCU’s Institute of Child Development, a research institute led by Dr. Karyn Purvis and Dr. David Cross (authors of The Connected Child), that focuses on the needs of adopted and at-risk children as well as successful parenting strategies to help them heal and thrive
  • www.adoptionsupport.org – The Center for Adoption Support and Education (CASE)
  • www.adoptivedads.org – adoption and foster care website specifically for dads and dads-to-be
  • www.adoptivefamilies.com/foster – a wide variety of articles and stories about foster care and families adopting from foster care
  • www.childwelfare.gov/adoption/index.cfm – (formerly known as the National Adoption Information Clearinghouse) a U.S. government website that provides a variety of general information on all aspects of domestic and intercountry adoption, including adoption from foster care
  • www.davethomasfoundationforadoption.org – adoption information and resources provided by the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption, focusing specifically on adoptions of children in America’s foster care system
  • www.howtoadopt.org – an adoption education site sponsored by Show Hope (an adoption organization begun by Mary Beth and Stephen Curtis Chapman)
  • www.pactadopt.org – deals exclusively with transracial and transethnic adoption issues; PACT’s adoption book guide, however, is a great resource for virtually every adoption book ever published (including children’s adoption books)
  • www.adoptchildren.org – information about foster care and adoption opportunities for children under the care of the Texas Department of Family and Protective Services; this site also contains information about hundreds of Texas children who are currently waiting to be adopted

Disclaimer:  We trust that these resources will be helpful to you, but obviously neither we nor Irving Bible Church necessarily agree with or endorse every idea and opinion contained in them. We know that you will use your judgment and discernment as you read and consider these and any other adoption and foster care resources. In addition, we are always available to discuss any questions that you might have, so please feel free to contact Amy or Michael Monroe at [email protected] or (972) 315-9628.

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