The Big Question

By: - June 5, 2011

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A List of Questions for Discussion in Waiting Families Groups

  1. What is the most difficult part of the adoption/foster care wait?
  2. Think ahead to after you have been home with your new child for six months?  What is your biggest question, fear or concern?  What can you do now (during the wait) to begin to address that question/fear/concern?
  3. In what ways do you feel misunderstood by family and friends in terms of your decision to adopt or foster?
  4. What (or who) has helped or encouraged you most during the adoption/foster care wait?  Why?
  5. What is the most hurtful thing someone has said to you about your decision to adopt or foster?
  6. How would you answer this question if (or when) your child one day asks it of you: “Mom/dad, why did you adopt me?”
  7. What is the biggest insight (i.e., ‘ah-ha’) that you have realized during the adoption/foster care wait thus far?
  8. What is the biggest myth or misconception about adoption or foster care that you have encountered thus far?
  9. Money is always a big part of any adoption journey.  What have you learned about money or how has your perspective about money changed as a result of your adoption journey thus far?
  10. Do you think the parenting techniques and approaches that are effective for biological children are likely to be equally effective for the child you will bring home?  Why or why not?

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