At Tapestry Conference last weekend, Tara Vanderwoude gave a beautiful testimony describing adoption as being both a blessing and a tragedy at the same time. The truth of her words struck deep into my heart. Adoption is often filled with bittersweet moments. As Tara so eloquently put it, “No matter the circumstances, it is tragic when a family can’t stay together.”
When I come home from a Tapestry Conference, I often feel a similar mixture of happy and sad emotions. I feel hopeful, overwhelmed, encouraged, equipped, and shameful, all at the same time. Many times I am not sure what to do with all the emotion. How do I sort through all the advice given to me? What do I do with the overwhelming feeling I will never get this connected parenting thing right? It’s hard to know where to start once you get home. And let’s face it, there is not usually enough time to sort all of this out. Many of us go straight back into parenting, laundry, and all the things without much time to process the weekend. Here are three simple things I believe will help parents make the most of the conference this year:
In one of the sessions, Ryan North mentioned that parenting is hard. Parenting kids with trauma is harder. Being a kid with trauma is even harder. We need events like the Tapestry Conference to help us renew our call to loving ourselves and the children in our lives.