Yesterday evening our little one was on a rampage – school to ballet to home was just too much. There was hitting, crumpling of beloved coloring pages, screaming and so much more. She was inconsolable.
We tried to push through our evening routines of dinner and bath to just make it to bedtime, but the little one was not playing along. So we pressed pause and changed directions. We went outside and found some birds nesting on the front porch. Then we came inside, chewed some ice, finished our dinner and, since everyone was calm, we started back on our regular course. And when it was time to get ready for a bath she said, “I go backyard and play ball.” And my husband and I looked at each other and said, “Yes.”
We said yes. We played ball. We reconnected. We stopped focusing on our frustrations and those ten minutes outside playing ball were the sweetest 10 minutes of my day.
Our reconnection allowed us to reset. Once we reset, bath and bedtime were rather smooth. Then, we all got to rest, and all it cost us was those 10 minutes.
It isn’t always this easy to reconnect, but the more often we put aside our frustrations and choose to say yes, the more we build relationships and trust. As our kids get older, the “tantrums” look different, but the goal is still the same. Help them calm and reconnect.