You go to all the classes. You learn about trauma and the impact it has on the brain. You try to channel your inner Karyn Purvis. But still, the isolation creeps in. At first, you are just keeping your child’s world small. You are working on connecting as a family. But slowly you find yourself pulling away from friends, family, and activities that bring you joy.
At first, you feel supported by those around you. There might be a meal or a phone call to check on you. But then you begin to feel exhaustion, overwhelm, guilt, shame, and feelings of inadequacy cover you. You stop sharing the struggles and hurts. You wonder why things aren’t going the way you thought.
How do you know you’re isolating yourself?
Isolation may lead foster and adoptive parents to avoid connection at all costs because of fear. You fear rejection, correction, or even facing your children’s challenging behaviors in public. While avoiding connection may be the natural inclination in periods of isolation and difficulty, connection with others is exactly what is needed. Connection is the antidote to fear.
Here are five simple steps you can take to seek the connection and support that you need.
Matthew 28:18-20 Jesus came and told his disciples, “I have been given all authority in heaven and on earth. Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”
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