Posts by Karly Pancake
|September 9, 2021
||Tapestry Conference 2021
||We are so excited to bring you The 2021 Tapestry Conference October 21st-23rd, 2021!
|August 17, 2021
||3 Steps Toward Becoming a Mindful Parent
||Mindfulness can seem like an abstract topic, one that is simple to think about but difficult to implement. However, when we can take small steps towards mindfulness, we can take small steps towards change in our hearts and homes. So, here are three small steps to move towards mindfulness in parenting.
|July 29, 2021
||God Delights in You
||Foster, adoptive, and kinship families face unique obstacles as their children heal from their past trauma. When we are facing these challenging behaviors, moods, and trauma responses, it can become very easy to stop delighting in the Lord, trusting Him, and committing everything we do to Him. Instead of turning to Him and delighting in Him, we isolate ourselves, resort to complaining, or blame our situation for our negative attitude.
|July 5, 2021
||Enjoying Play with Your Kids
||My children have taught me how to be playful and carefree again. They've taught me how to enjoy what I enjoy and not take myself too seriously. They've re-opened a part of me that I didn't even know was accessible. They have shown me that play is not only fun and enjoyable; it's essential to our well-being. As I connect with my kids, I connect with the God of the Universe - who created us to play and rest and work and be with Him.
|April 12, 2021
||7 Ways to Love Biological Families
||When we choose to foster or adopt, we are choosing to honor, respect, and love our children's biological families. In doing so, we show the love of Christ to biological families in simple, tangible ways. This not only shows them love, it also includes them in the raising of their children, offering them the opportunity to have a relationship with their children.
|March 16, 2021
||Trauma & Felt Safety
||Even after years of being in our homes, children may still not feel safe, even though we know that they are safe. We as parents know that we will protect our children at all costs, making sure they have food, shelter, and safety. However, children who have experienced trauma come from a place where their needs were not met. They still may not feel safe.
|March 8, 2021
||Redemption in Secondary Trauma
||This blog was written by Karly Pancake and originally appeared on her blog, Foster Truth. In the last couple of weeks, my prayer journal has been filled with equal amounts of grief and gratitude. One night, I go to bed…
|February 26, 2021
||5 Things to Do When You Feel Isolated
||You go to all the classes. You learn about trauma and the impact it has on the brain. You try to channel your inner Karyn Purvis. But still, the isolation creeps in. At first, you are just keeping your child’s world small. You are working on connecting as a family. But slowly you find yourself pulling away from friends, family, and activities that bring you joy.
|February 8, 2021
||Loneliness in Foster Care & Adoption
||Fortunately, I didn't have any friends telling me how horrible I am and what poor choices I made (I have really amazing friends and family), but I did feel incredibly lonely and isolated in the middle of a really hard season. In The Bible Recap podcast about this portion of Scripture, Tara Leigh-Cobble said, "It's hard to feel alone in your pain. But it's even harder to feel unknown in your pain." So while I didn't experience the mockery that Job experienced from his friends, I did experience the aloneness and unknownness of suddenly raising a teenager and pre-teen who have experienced trauma in my late twenties as a first-time parent.
|January 25, 2021
||Back to Basics: Compromises, Choices, and Re-dos
||As parents, it is our natural instinct to parent the way that we were parented. For many of us, our parents did an excellent job raising us to be healthy, happy adults, but parenting children who have come from trauma means parenting children with unique needs. In order to do this well, we need a unique set of parenting tools to help us to connect with, guide, and love our children to the best of our ability in order to create the healing home that they need.
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